Welcome to today’s stop for the blog tour for Camp Boyfriend by J.K. Rock! Today Joanne and Karen have written a fantastic guest post on how not to stay in the ‘Friend Zone’!
Guest Post from J.K. Rock
Making It Out of the Friend Zone: Mission Possible
Here’s the playbook for pulling off the romantic equivalent of a Hail Mary pass- turning your best friend into your boyfriend. Some say it can’t be done. Some say you’ll crash and burn. I say, if handled right, you have nothing to lose… not even the friendship. Lauren did it in the prequel novella to our Camp Boyfriend novel, Camp Kiss, with Seth and so can you.
Flashback to kindergarten. You met in the sand box and bonded over swapped pretzels and Oreos. You were BFFs until fourth grade. Then it all got awkward. Boys had cooties. So did girls. You didn’t want each others’ cooties so you cooled off the friendship but kept tabs on each other. How could you forget the person you played Barbie loves GI Joe with? That was forever. At least you thought so. And then, in middle school, you started hanging out again, this time meeting again in gum detention and bonding over stuck lockers. Suddenly you were closer than ever with only one itsy bitsy problem. Now you’ve noticed how cute he is and want to be more than friends. How to overcome history and start a new future? Here are some strategies to break out of the Friend Zone:
1. Shake things up. Catch him off guard with a compliment. You always think them, so why not say one? He needs to know that you see him as more than the kid who went home sick after eating a two bags of Twizzlers during a sleepover.
2. Stop bringing up the past. It will only reinforce you as a friend. Instead focus on the future. Ask him what he’s doing over the weekend and make plans. Show him that you want to spend time with him.
3. Change the subject whenever he wants to talk about girl trouble. You aren’t his sounding board or his advice column. He needs to see you as girlfriend material and no one thought Ann Landers was sexy.
4. Do things meant only for two. Having other friends around makes it super awkward to break out of the routine and get romantic. Try doing something you’ve never done alone. Hike a nature trail to a secluded spot, stop at a local deli and bakery and have fun picking out items for a beach picnic, rent a tandem bike, go shopping for the perfect frame for your favorite picture of the two of you.
5. Touch. And not in some creepy, stalker way. But in a casual, ‘oops how did that happen?’ kind of way. Grab his hand during a scary movie, fly a kite and hold onto the reel together or fishing for that matter, dunk each other in the pool or anything else that will get you two in physical contact. Maybe even offer to join him in washing his car then get into a sudsy sponge fight. The more that happens, that more comfortable you’ll feel when the hand grab turns into a hand hold.
6. Romantic gestures. Bake his favorite cupcakes and put hearts on them when he’s down, bring him chicken soup if he misses school with a cold, send him a ‘Thinking of You’ card when he least expects it, bring him a thermos of hot cocoa during a cold sports game . Boys are all about action. So take some. But don’t paint him in a corner. He’ll only want to escape and that will include your friendship.
7. Laugh. A lot. This is something you already do as friends so it should be easy. And this part of your relationship should never change. But if you bring a lot of friend drama to him, it might be time to dial it down a little and focus on having fun as a couple. The next time he invites you to hang out, bring a couple cans of silly string for a basement romp or a box of water balloons on a hot summer day.
8. Get word to him through a friend. You can always deny deny deny later. But in case he likes you- SCORE! Sure it’s juvenile, it’s middle school, it’s whatever… but some of us aren’t good with the direct approach and it will give him time to think before feeling pressured into giving an answer. Another plus- he’ll see that your mutual friends support the status change- are even working to make it happen!
9. Write a note. Nothing long. Nothing over-the-top. Go for the three S’s- short, sweet and sincere. Something like: Zach, you’re such a great friend and you’d be a great boyfriend too. Will you go out with me? Text me Y or N. Either way. Nothing changes. xoxo
10. And if all else fails- hit the EJECT button on your expectations. But don’t ditch your friendship. You want him in your life even though it’s time to move on to greener pastures. Date someone else instead of mooning over him. And who knows, since the grass on your side of the fence might look greener to him too and he may decide to join you.
Best of luck! And please share your “I Made It Out of the Friend Zone” success tales with us here! We’d love to hear them. Perhaps we’ll share them with Lauren and you can compare notes!
The Camp Kiss That Started It All…
Lauren Carlson, a fourteen-year-old expert on the cosmos, superheroes, and science fiction trivia has a crush on her longtime camp friend, Seth. Last summer she’d dreamed about upgrading their relationship to BF/GF status and this year she has a plan… if only her well-meaning cabin mates wouldn’t interfere before she’s ready. She hasn’t even adjusted to her new braces yet, let alone imagined kissing Seth with them. When a dare pushes her out of her comfort zone, will she and Seth rocket out of the friendzone at last? There’s only one way to find out…
About Camp Boyfriend
Release: 2 July 2013
Publisher: Spencer Hill Contemporary
The summer of her dreams is about to get a reality check.
They said it couldn’t be done, but geeky sophomore Lauren Carlson transformed herself into a popular girl after moving to a new school halfway across the country. Amazing what losing her braces and going out for cheerleading will do. Only trouble is, the popular crowd is wearing on Lauren’s nerves and she can’t wait to return to summer camp where she’s valued for her brain instead of her handsprings. She misses her old friends and most of all, her long time camp-only boyfriend, Seth. This year she intends to upgrade their relationship to year-round status once she’s broken up with her new, jock boyfriend, Matt. He doesn’t even begin to know the real her, a girl fascinated by the night sky who dreams of discovering new planets and galaxies.
But Matt isn’t giving her up without a fight. As he makes his case to stay together, Lauren begins to realize his feelings run deeper than she ever would have guessed. What if the guy she thought she was meant to be with forever isn’t really The One? Returning to Camp Juniper Point was supposed to ground her uprooted life, but she’s more adrift than ever. Everything feels different and soon Lauren’s friends are turning on her and both guys question what she really wants. As summer tensions escalate, Lauren wonders if she’s changed more than she thought. Will her first big discovery be herself?
About J.K. Rock:
J. K. Rock is the pseudonym for YA writing partners – and sisters-in-law – Joanne & Karen Rock. Although they started out sharing an annual shopping trip, they ended up discussing their favorite films and books, joining the same book club and talking about writing… a lot. Their debut novel, Camp Boyfriend, is the first in a three-book series that was plotted during family pool parties. Their creative partnership is unique in that they enjoy passing a book back and forth, each adding a chapter and fine-tuning the chapter before. Years of friendship has yielded a shared voice and vision for their work that makes writing a pleasure.
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